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Discussion => Off topic => Topic started by: sirjoss88 on October 13, 2012, 11:03 am
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hey yalll :D
as the topig says, my girlfriend dont like me doing drugs, but she is ok with me smoking, and im happy about that..
My pased grilfriends didnt like that either... But i want to do some drugs now and then, if I do drugs I usualy cant sleep the following night, and its no fun just pretending to be sleeping next to my gilrfriend.. what drugs can i take in small amount urly in the day, come home and night and go to sleep, without my girl noticing?
Ive try to do this with som lines of coke and that worked ok, but coke is a bit boring.. Small amounts of mdma works fine to, but only if shes drinking to... any toughts?
;D
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Try snorting a line of "grow some balls".
Also heard a tab of "new girlfriend" blotter is awesome.
Ok, I'll go hide under my bridge now.
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Hi dude,
That is a sticky situation you find yourself in and I have been there myself once before. In my experience, drug users and non users are not compatible as a couple unless the one that doesn't take drugs is cool with the other dabbling every now and then. If you're hiding your drug use, she will eventually cop on to what you're up to and this, in turn, will lead to accusations of you lying to her and she will be wondering how long you were doing it for.
When the situation happened to me, I laid my cards on the table and told her where I stand and that my drug use is part of who I am, and that she either had to accept that or else it was over. I was prepared for the possible outcome of her saying "OK, goodbye", which she did. Best thing I ever did was get rid of her because I hate hiding what i'm up to at parties etc and I don't like someone else dictating what I can and can't do. Now I am with a girl who also likes to take drugs and everything is hunky dory :)
If you really like her, I guess you'll have to figure out what you are going to do. I wish you luck.
Psy
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Grow some balls?
Why doesn't your gf like you doing drugs? I think you need to adress that and be realistic with her. I've went through a lot of women this past year and the ones i've had the best time with are the ones that don't care about my use and partake with me. I'm not saying go out and find you a hooker that knows how to party. (Unless that's your thing.) I'm saying it would be eaiser to be up front about it and a lot more fun if she was up at night with you lol.
Otherwise you can hide your habit. I got pretty good at hiding mine with two of my ex girlfriends. (I thought that i was going to be with them forever blah blah blah.) It was really easy for me to hide most of my habits. Also, if you are taking them when you're not around your girl. How would she notice? That part confuses me. Obviously don't use things that linger on clothing, breath, or change your gait.
Good luck living your double lifestyle 00 agent.
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Grow some balls?
Why doesn't your gf like you doing drugs? I think you need to adress that and be realistic with her. I've went through a lot of women this past year and the ones i've had the best time with are the ones that don't care about my use and partake with me. I'm not saying go out and find you a hooker that knows how to party. (Unless that's your thing.) I'm saying it would be eaiser to be up front about it and a lot more fun if she was up at night with you lol.
Otherwise you can hide your habit. I got pretty good at hiding mine with two of my ex girlfriends. (I thought that i was going to be with them forever blah blah blah.) It was really easy for me to hide most of my habits. Also, if you are taking them when you're not around your girl. How would she notice? That part confuses me. Obviously don't use things that linger on clothing, breath, or change your gait.
Good luck living your double lifestyle 00 agent.
yeah growing some balls is not and option ;D
I dont use drugs to often anyways, and thats why I dont want to make it a bigger deal of it then it is.. its like once a mounth i want to do something else than smoking..
Why she doesnt like it, I dont know, but shes like many others, formed by sosiety, people around here, goverment, police etc.. drinking til you puke aint now problem ass long ass you dont do "drugs".. But I love my girlfriend, even do she is mindfucked by here parents and friends on this one issue...
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Hi dude,
That is a sticky situation you find yourself in and I have been there myself once before. In my experience, drug users and non users are not compatible as a couple unless the one that doesn't take drugs is cool with the other dabbling every now and then. If you're hiding your drug use, she will eventually cop on to what you're up to and this, in turn, will lead to accusations of you lying to her and she will be wondering how long you were doing it for.
When the situation happened to me, I laid my cards on the table and told her where I stand and that my drug use is part of who I am, and that she either had to accept that or else it was over. I was prepared for the possible outcome of her saying "OK, goodbye", which she did. Best thing I ever did was get rid of her because I hate hiding what i'm up to at parties etc and I don't like someone else dictating what I can and can't do. Now I am with a girl who also likes to take drugs and everything is hunky dory :)
If you really like her, I guess you'll have to figure out what you are going to do. I wish you luck.
Psy
good answer... ive been with my gf for a couple of years and dont want to loose here, so if I have to I just dont do drugs.. but I dont think im hurting anyone, if Its not often, and she doesnt find out.. Im happy for you finding a girl it works out with, but its not easy finding someone who is ok with doing drugs occasionally, but doesnt have it as a habit etc.. Im a normal working man in my opinion, even do i have a liberal view on drugs ::)
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Grow some balls?
Why doesn't your gf like you doing drugs? I think you need to adress that and be realistic with her. I've went through a lot of women this past year and the ones i've had the best time with are the ones that don't care about my use and partake with me. I'm not saying go out and find you a hooker that knows how to party. (Unless that's your thing.) I'm saying it would be eaiser to be up front about it and a lot more fun if she was up at night with you lol.
Otherwise you can hide your habit. I got pretty good at hiding mine with two of my ex girlfriends. (I thought that i was going to be with them forever blah blah blah.) It was really easy for me to hide most of my habits. Also, if you are taking them when you're not around your girl. How would she notice? That part confuses me. Obviously don't use things that linger on clothing, breath, or change your gait.
Good luck living your double lifestyle 00 agent.
yeah growing some balls is not and option ;D
I dont use drugs to often anyways, and thats why I dont want to make it a bigger deal of it then it is.. its like once a mounth i want to do something else than smoking..
Why she doesnt like it, I dont know, but shes like many others, formed by sosiety, people around here, goverment, police etc.. drinking til you puke aint now problem ass long ass you dont do "drugs".. But I love my girlfriend, even do she is mindfucked by here parents and friends on this one issue...
yeah i understand how hard it is to get people to take those blinders off. So, she's cool with getting shitfaced, correct? What other substances does she use? What substances do you use?
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Grow some balls?
Why doesn't your gf like you doing drugs? I think you need to adress that and be realistic with her. I've went through a lot of women this past year and the ones i've had the best time with are the ones that don't care about my use and partake with me. I'm not saying go out and find you a hooker that knows how to party. (Unless that's your thing.) I'm saying it would be eaiser to be up front about it and a lot more fun if she was up at night with you lol.
Otherwise you can hide your habit. I got pretty good at hiding mine with two of my ex girlfriends. (I thought that i was going to be with them forever blah blah blah.) It was really easy for me to hide most of my habits. Also, if you are taking them when you're not around your girl. How would she notice? That part confuses me. Obviously don't use things that linger on clothing, breath, or change your gait.
Good luck living your double lifestyle 00 agent.
yeah growing some balls is not and option ;D
I dont use drugs to often anyways, and thats why I dont want to make it a bigger deal of it then it is.. its like once a mounth i want to do something else than smoking..
Why she doesnt like it, I dont know, but shes like many others, formed by sosiety, people around here, goverment, police etc.. drinking til you puke aint now problem ass long ass you dont do "drugs".. But I love my girlfriend, even do she is mindfucked by here parents and friends on this one issue...
yeah i understand how hard it is to get people to take those blinders off. So, she's cool with getting shitfaced, correct? What other substances does she use? What substances do you use?
yes getting more shitfaced than ive ever seen is perfectly okey, oooh the logic ::)
she just drink, but have tried some other thing in the pasted.. but its like 4 years ago, and she was pretty young then...
Ive tried many things :P but I mostly smoke witch she is ok with, but I like to occasionally do some mdma, coke etc, and maybe test out some things ive seen here on the road that ive havent tried yet :P but I dont have any habits or anything, if you see pased me smoking cannabis everyday after work ;D
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fuck her ;)
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I understand your desire to carry on using drugs but you need to balance this against how your girlfriend is going to feel, she certainly doesn't approve of it. We don't like to hear it but people who don't do drugs ALWAYS look down on those who do, it's wrong, but it's just the way it is. This would be a guess, I don't think the legality of the drugs your using is the issue, she's more concerned (and insecure) your not happy enough with her to not do drugs. Although, in YOUR mind this is not the case, we're talking about what's going on in HER mind.
In relationships, I personally believe it's very important for both partners to be honest with one another, and do not attempt to conceal, hide, or lie. Dishonesty is not a solid foundation for a relationship, in most instances lies catch up eventually, causing the relationship to breakdown. It's not easy finding the right partner, but females that accept and use drugs moderately like yourself exist.
The other option is for you to give up altogether to please her, which I think is wrong, she should love you for you. I don't believe in manipulation in a relationship, and if she gets what she wants with this issue, she may start to enforce her opinion into other areas of your life. It's going to be a tough decision, but if you love her, you have to do whatever you feel is the right choice, best of luck to you :)
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I understand your desire to carry on using drugs but you need to balance this against how your girlfriend is going to feel, she certainly doesn't approve of it. We don't like to hear it but people who don't do drugs ALWAYS look down on those who do, it's wrong, but it's just the way it is. This would be a guess, I don't think the legality of the drugs your using is the issue, she's more concerned (and insecure) your not happy enough with her to not do drugs. Although, in YOUR mind this is not the case, we're talking about what's going on in HER mind.
In relationships, I personally believe it's very important for both partners to be honest with one another, and do not attempt to conceal, hide, or lie. Dishonesty is not a solid foundation for a relationship, in most instances lies catch up eventually, causing the relationship to breakdown. It's not easy finding the right partner, but females that accept and use drugs moderately like yourself exist.
The other option is for you to give up altogether to please her, which I think is wrong, she should love you for you. I don't believe in manipulation in a relationship, and if she gets what she wants with this issue, she may start to enforce her opinion into other areas of your life. It's going to be a tough decision, but if you love her, you have to do whatever you feel is the right choice, best of luck to you :)
I'd listen to PrincessHIGH if I were you. I was in a situation like you about 10 years back. I was a recreational user, my girlfriend was so very anti-drug (she had OD'ed at some point before I met her and had to go to the ER) and because I wanted to be with her I gave up that portion of my lifestyle, left it all behind.
Fast forward 10 years, and after getting married and having a kid and suffering through a bad relationship and bad marriage we're getting divorced. And Princess was right - it didn't stop with her opinion on drugs, she was just a very stubborn and opinionated person on a lot of things, and she could never open her mind to view things in different ways. It became a major point of argument for us.
And now I'm back here on SR, getting my recreational use on after a 10-year drought.
But since you're asking for help on what kind of drugs you can take... you can always bump ketamine in bed next to her, lol. You can k-hole while she gets her sleep on!
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We had go to the shrink to discuss my "drug addiction". Funny thing was 10 years ago when we met she used to drop pills all the time. But she grow out of it I didn't I still like to get fuck up.
Shrink basically said, doesn't sound like he is addicted, knows the risks involved and there are worse stuff out there.
So we just agree not to talk about it, she fucks off for the weekend now and again I get high.
Sorted. ;D
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We had go to the shrink to discuss my "drug addiction". Funny thing was 10 years ago when we met she used to drop pills all the time. But she grow out of it I didn't I still like to get fuck up.
Shrink basically said, doesn't sound like he is addicted, knows the risks involved and there are worse stuff out there.
So we just agree not to talk about it, she fucks off for the weekend now and again I get high.
Sorted. ;D
lol glad it worked out for you, and seems like a good objective shrink :)
maye its not impossible to make her see things in another way in time.. just seems hard right now :P
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Don't change who you are for anyone. But don't go around taking drugs behind her back and lying to her face, that's not good.
If drugs are important to you and she is not going to change her mind on the issue, then you've only really got one option.
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Get a new girlfriend bro!! No if ands or buts about it. Plenty of girls out there that love to drugs just as much as us guys.
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It's tricky path, there are many reasons for the difference of view on this topic, but you will also find every "couple" has a difference of view on 50% of topics.
:)
nomad
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i hear on that man. my ex gf absolutely HATED the fact that i smoked. eventually, we broke up because of it. there is plenty of the fish in the sea!
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I am sorry for your dilemma . I was in a similar one years ago.What i learned and finally accepted was that i could rely on drugs and that i could not rely on a woman. All i had to do was read the label on the side of the bottle and i new what to expect. With women men will never know. It is part of the mystic of the female gender. Show me a man who say's they know what a woman wants and i'll show you a fool .
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hey yalll :D
as the topig says, my girlfriend dont like me doing drugs, but she is ok with me smoking, and im happy about that..
My pased grilfriends didnt like that either... But i want to do some drugs now and then, if I do drugs I usualy cant sleep the following night, and its no fun just pretending to be sleeping next to my gilrfriend.. what drugs can i take in small amount urly in the day, come home and night and go to sleep, without my girl noticing?
Ive try to do this with som lines of coke and that worked ok, but coke is a bit boring.. Small amounts of mdma works fine to, but only if shes drinking to... any toughts?
;D
Just curious: what's your native language?
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I had a GF similar to this and I eventually ended it due to her being a pathological liar and freaking out since I promised myself in 5th Grade after graduating from DARE that I was going to try all drugs..
But now I actually sell to her so things kinda went full circle and on a side note she's an idiot and is going to fry her serotonin receptors before she's 25 but thats her issue haha
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When we say drugs what do we mean? There's a world of difference between heroin and weed.
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My girlfriend LOVES the drugs...
My wife hates it!
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Don't listen to em. Girls are more important than drugs.
If you can snatch some alone time here and there, enjoy it. That's what men do.
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I had a GF similar to this and I eventually ended it due to her being a pathological liar and freaking out since I promised myself in 5th Grade after graduating from DARE that I was going to try all drugs..
But now I actually sell to her so things kinda went full circle and on a side note she's an idiot and is going to fry her serotonin receptors before she's 25 but thats her issue haha
Wow, i thought i was the only one that did that with DARE haha.
Also, it would be tough for me to allow someone to fry their brain in front of me, that's why i had to leave my ex. I'm not judging, but i just couldn't watch it.
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hey yalll :D
as the topig says, my girlfriend dont like me doing drugs, but she is ok with me smoking, and im happy about that..
My pased grilfriends didnt like that either... But i want to do some drugs now and then, if I do drugs I usualy cant sleep the following night, and its no fun just pretending to be sleeping next to my gilrfriend.. what drugs can i take in small amount urly in the day, come home and night and go to sleep, without my girl noticing?
Ive try to do this with som lines of coke and that worked ok, but coke is a bit boring.. Small amounts of mdma works fine to, but only if shes drinking to... any toughts?
;D
I know. Try some 2C-B. While you're on it, think long and hard whether this is the girl for you.
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My girl friend hates it!
The only middle ground we have been able to find is that i only use once a month.
Has its positives.
Believe me , having a girl that cares enough about you, to worry about your drug use is actually a good thing. Never got the chance to let my consumption get out of control..
You're setting yourself up to fail. If yall break up, you'll be using out of control. If she has been the one in control of your use, and on top of that you'll be sad because of the break up. You're going to be a mess. I just hope it doesn't end in an OD or addiction. I say this from past experience. I had the same kind of thing with a girl. I used drugs harder in that time span than any other time in my life. A few of those. "How am i still here?" momments. I strongly disagree with this advice.
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My girl friend hates it!
The only middle ground we have been able to find is that i only use once a month.
Has its positives.
Believe me , having a girl that cares enough about you, to worry about your drug use is actually a good thing. Never got the chance to let my consumption get out of control..
You used to use heavily?
You're setting yourself up to fail. If yall break up, you'll be using out of control. If she has been the one in control of your use, and on top of that you'll be sad because of the break up. You're going to be a mess. I just hope it doesn't end in an OD or addiction. I say this from past experience. I had the same kind of thing with a girl. I used drugs harder in that time span than any other time in my life. A few of those. "How am i still here?" momments. I strongly disagree with this advice.
Yeah not with out its disadvantages , but wise words my friend.
Shes def not in control, its more of a disincentive , like shes just against drug use at all , even when its responsible...
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I had a GF similar to this and I eventually ended it due to her being a pathological liar and freaking out since I promised myself in 5th Grade after graduating from DARE that I was going to try all drugs..
But now I actually sell to her so things kinda went full circle and on a side note she's an idiot and is going to fry her serotonin receptors before she's 25 but thats her issue haha
Wow, i thought i was the only one that did that with DARE haha.
Also, it would be tough for me to allow someone to fry their brain in front of me, that's why i had to leave my ex. I'm not judging, but i just couldn't watch it.
Yeah when I was in D.A.R.E I was even calling bullshit then like if these drugs are so bad then everyone wouldn't be doing them
And with respect to my Ex I occasionally give her mini nuerochemistry lesson how she shouldn't do it too much and then I sell it to her. I also look at it is I know what's in it and she isn't getting the bath salts and RC that are being past off as MDMA
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hey yalll :D
as the topig says, my girlfriend dont like me doing drugs, but she is ok with me smoking, and im happy about that..
My pased grilfriends didnt like that either... But i want to do some drugs now and then, if I do drugs I usualy cant sleep the following night, and its no fun just pretending to be sleeping next to my gilrfriend.. what drugs can i take in small amount urly in the day, come home and night and go to sleep, without my girl noticing?
Ive try to do this with som lines of coke and that worked ok, but coke is a bit boring.. Small amounts of mdma works fine to, but only if shes drinking to... any toughts?
;D
Just curious: what's your native language?
norwegian :)
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When we say drugs what do we mean? There's a world of difference between heroin and weed.
i mostly smoke weed, and shes ok with that, but my toughts is if i wanna enjoy doing some coke, or mdma now and then...
I dont do it know, because of my girlfriend, but did before i met here.. Its a moral dilemma first of all, I think if I do it when i am alone and maybe once a month, that it isn't that big of a deal if I lie about it..
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hey yalll :D
as the topig says, my girlfriend dont like me doing drugs, but she is ok with me smoking, and im happy about that..
My pased grilfriends didnt like that either... But i want to do some drugs now and then, if I do drugs I usualy cant sleep the following night, and its no fun just pretending to be sleeping next to my gilrfriend.. what drugs can i take in small amount urly in the day, come home and night and go to sleep, without my girl noticing?
Ive try to do this with som lines of coke and that worked ok, but coke is a bit boring.. Small amounts of mdma works fine to, but only if shes drinking to... any toughts?
;D
I hate to sound like a bitch here but you were using before you started dating (I assume) so she now has no right to try to change you. Obviously, she agreed with your occasional use in the beginning of the relationship but now wants to cry foul - so what else has she tried to change, so far?
I used to be anti-drug until a few years ago - never even touched pot in high school because it's how I was raised by Catholic parents. I tell you that because when I wasn't into drugs, I wouldn't date someone who was so neither one of us would pay a price. It's that simple.
Imo, you need to find another girlfriend. Run away, actually! For fuk sake, you're on SR asking advice on how to sneak around regarding something that used to be okay. There are casual female users out there, just like yourself, who won't start dating you, then hand out ultimatums later.
Good luck!
:o I'm nosy so I hope you come back with an update for us (at least I'm honest!)
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hey yalll :D
as the topig says, my girlfriend dont like me doing drugs, but she is ok with me smoking, and im happy about that..
My pased grilfriends didnt like that either... But i want to do some drugs now and then, if I do drugs I usualy cant sleep the following night, and its no fun just pretending to be sleeping next to my gilrfriend.. what drugs can i take in small amount urly in the day, come home and night and go to sleep, without my girl noticing?
Ive try to do this with som lines of coke and that worked ok, but coke is a bit boring.. Small amounts of mdma works fine to, but only if shes drinking to... any toughts?
;D
I hate to sound like a bitch here but you were using before you started dating (I assume) so she now has no right to try to change you. Obviously, she agreed with your occasional use in the beginning of the relationship but now wants to cry foul - so what else has she tried to change, so far?
I used to be anti-drug until a few years ago - never even touched pot in high school because it's how I was raised by Catholic parents. I tell you that because when I wasn't into drugs, I wouldn't date someone who was so neither one of us would pay a price. It's that simple.
Imo, you need to find another girlfriend. Run away, actually! For fuk sake, you're on SR asking advice on how to sneak around regarding something that used to be okay. There are casual female users out there, just like yourself, who won't start dating you, then hand out ultimatums later.
Good luck!
:o I'm nosy so I hope you come back with an update for us (at least I'm honest!)
Great answer :) and you have understood my situation quit well.. But I love here, and this is not so important to me, but even so, I agree with your point.. she was ok with this in the beginning, and she shouldnt try to change me..
Most of the reason i posted it here, is that I know this is a situation allot of other people have been in, so its nice to see what others have to say.. I will update ;)